DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend and I just lately purchased our first home collectively. It has an outside kitchen and different options he actually likes. I prefer it too, however there have been some points already within the first month or two.
Recently, he’s been desirous to have BBQs and get-togethers for his household. He invitations all these individuals over who I don’t know. I’m not comfy having individuals over on a regular basis. He does it to point out off the home.
I’m exhausted from all these events. Though I’ve expressed to him that I’m not comfy, he nonetheless does it with out asking me.
I’ve expressed my emotions and issues, however he doesn’t appear to care. I’m a non-public particular person and need to get pleasure from my house. We did have a housewarming get together, however he all the time needs to have extra.
I don’t know what to do anymore. He will get upset, and I’m all the time caught cooking and cleansing. To him, I’m a celebration pooper and a grump. I simply need my voice heard and for him to not be so egocentric and a show-off. I additionally need him to think about my household, too. How do I cope? — PARTY POOPER IN THE WEST
DEAR PARTY POOPER: A step in the suitable course could be to give up taking part in cook dinner and unpaid maid. Your thoughtless boyfriend is aware of you don’t like doing it, so draw the road. Inform him you don’t like being ignored and can now not tolerate the state of affairs he has created. If he refuses to compromise, discuss with an legal professional a couple of plan for him to purchase your half of the home. No legislation says this needs to be your future.
Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
