Expensive Eric: I’ve been sharing Thanksgiving with pricey associates for many years. About three years in the past, they realized a good friend of mine, with whom they’re acquainted, had no plans for the day. So, she has been invited and now attends yearly.
These are sort and beneficiant associates, so they provide their friends the chance to take dwelling doggie baggage. My good friend is first in line and sometimes takes sufficient for 2 to a few individuals, whatever the quantity of meals remaining and the variety of individuals there.
She then freezes the bounty since she might be gone (her household does Thanksgiving the weekend after).
My internet hosting associates are too good to say something to her. She is financially secure so it’s not that she isn’t positive the place her subsequent meal is coming from. Additionally, the hosts present your entire meal, so she brings nothing to the combination. Though tone-deaf, my good friend is extraordinarily delicate, so I’m reluctant to say something. Do you’ve gotten any recommendation? Do I simply settle for that that is how my good friend is (she has taken benefit of different conditions up to now) or say one thing?
– Embarrassed Pal
Expensive Pal: Some may name this grasping; some may name it prudent. Some may say it’s a metaphor for the ills of society. But when the hosts don’t have an issue with it, neither must you.
I perceive the sensation of secondhand embarrassment, since she’s somebody that you already know higher than them. So, chances are you’ll wish to ask them if her behavior with the leftovers is one thing they’ve observed or are bothered by. However, because the hosts, they’re setting the desk and the parameters. They’re not asking anybody to carry something and so they’re encouraging their friends to take meals dwelling. In the event that they wished to set a restrict on the quantity or dimension of doggie baggage, they might.
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