Pricey Annie: A lady, “Patty,” who pursued my husband 10 years in the past, attends church with me. Throughout this time, my husband alerted me to her efforts, and it culminated along with her answering her dwelling’s entrance door in solely a towel. Patty had referred to as him to choose one thing up. My husband, fearing her aggressive flirting, demanded I include him. So as an alternative of my husband, I used to be standing there when she answered the door. I remarked on the time, “I apologize for interrupting your bare time.” I additionally apologized to my husband for minimizing his issues about Patty.
Ten years later, I’ve gone out of my option to forgive her for the previous, and I’m overtly pleasant and type to her. Nevertheless, just lately, I’ve suspected she is bringing me up in the course of the church prayer request time when I’m not in attendance. The pastor of our small church asks the congregation who they want to pray for, and first names are shouted out. I’ve witnessed her shouting my first identify once I watch the church service on-line. My identify is just not frequent. I’ve had a pair individuals ask if I’m OK. Patty has not shouted my identify once I attend in individual. Ought to I proceed with no response and be pleasant, or ought to I tackle it not directly? — Needing Prayers for No Drama
Pricey Needing Prayers: In the event you really feel as much as it, confront “Patty” kindly however immediately about these public prayer shoutouts. This reveals her you’re conscious of what she’s doing even in case you’re not in individual at these providers, however it additionally permits a chance for you two to formally clear the air after a decade of awkwardness.
It says an ideal deal about your character that you simply so graciously forgave Patty for her extraordinarily inappropriate habits towards your husband. Whereas we don’t know what her motives are as of late, maybe she thinks that by praying for you, she is being gracious in return.
Pricey Annie: I’m writing in regard to “Heartbroken Most cancers Survivor,” who has short-term reminiscence loss from chemo remedies and feels she annoys her household when she repeats questions and conversations she will’t bear in mind. She mentioned she appears like she has no voice in her personal home.
I’m an occupational therapist and used to work with sufferers who had traumatic mind accidents. Additionally they take care of short-term reminiscence loss. What we educate them to do is carry a pocket book with them and write down questions/solutions, dates, the day’s calendar and many others., so as an alternative of “Heartbroken” asking the identical query time and again, as soon as she asks and is answered, she will write the knowledge down and refer again to it. That is additionally helpful to place the day’s schedule in, the menu for the day, and many others. I hope this may assist “Heartbroken” along with her scenario. — Hoping to Assist
Pricey Hoping: Thanks in your letter. A number of different readers wrote in with this very suggestion. Many others sang the praises of speech-language pathologists in associated specialties and their potential to doubtlessly assist with restoration.
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